I prepared for this trip by downloading five movies prior to this trip, but only two stayed, one of those being the Secret Life of Walter Mitty. If you haven’t seen the film, I could probably recite it for you word for word, but the main thing you need to know is that at the end the idea is, the quintessence of life is the people who make it. While I am starting to become sick of this movie, I think that movie stuck on my Disney + downloads for a reason. This trip would not be the same if I packed up and left Spokane alone; the people make the experience and the memories. In this blog post I want to share the quintessence of Gonzaga in Zambezi, and the people who have made it so beautiful for me:
Ellie, a girl who brings the most amount of joy to the most mundane moments. Ellie chose to step up on her day off when it was my turn to do dishes and made it a Dixie Chicks stomp party in the kitchen.
When you first meet her, Caroline M. can seem very serious, but in the situations where we have moments of just the two of us, the whispered jokes bring a sense of humor to any situation. For example, in Zambezi, when you are a guest somewhere it is not uncommon to be gifted a live chicken. At homestays we were asked to kill and cook our new gift, the looks between Caroline and I during this time were subtle but meaningful. Everyone needs a Caroline to give “the look” to so you don’t freak out but have a giggle instead.
Sean reminds me to enjoy everything that you do and do it with passion and purpose. He easily could have rushed past Mustafa the tailor, just asking for a shirt to be made, but he formed a full relationship with Mustafa. To be like Sean you must keep it real but open and take time and fully commit to conversation and learning with everyone you meet.
Carly is determined and knows exactly what she wants. Carly knows to do what brings her joy and this trip was no exception. She shows a sense of knowledge and bravery that inspires me. While I have no idea what I want to do in life, hearing someone who is doing everything now for a future in teaching and teaching well is amazing and you can learn so much from her.
Over the course of this trip, I have been able to see Mia’s “cool” move in so many ways. Watching her selflessly work with students and kids inspires me. In the computer and leadership class we teach, Mia always is down to put in her best effort and is confident in what she knows. One woman in our class has never used a computer and has been struggling a little bit. Mia took the time to approach her after class and offer to teach her one on one so she could get caught up. I will always watch and learn from Mia.
On this trip Kamy has truly chosen to embrace Zambian culture. From learning traditional dances, learning how to greet a Zambian father-in-law at dinner last night, and waking up early on days she didn’t have too to cook breakfast for the group. The women in Zambian culture embrace the time spent doing things like cooking, dancing and learning from each other. Kamy’s choice to show love through food and dance is a side of hers that I had not seen prior to this trip. To take a lesson from Kamy is to learn that when you try new things, you not only learn but grow as well.
Sarah always has a positive outlook on life with laughter alongside her, some great traits of a teacher. Sarah and I have been sharing a room for the past two weeks here at the convent and what a joy it has been. Taking a negative situation and problem solving with a smile is something that not many can do, but with a Sarah in your life you can find the positive spark in any situation.
This trip I have grown so much closer to Piper by just enjoying life with her. She gets the hard days and embraces the moments of joy in the bright ones. One memory from this past week was when we went to the market to simply get rice and cinnamon sticks and ended up there for almost three hours. With translation sheets in hand, we ran through the inner market learning Lunda and Luvale while laughing and dancing with the vendors. We ended up in every corner of the market learning new words from each person while dancing and cheering when we could get one word right.
Caroline O. over the course of this trip has shown me what it’s like to be vulnerable. When she shares, she does so with heart and emotion, something I personally struggle with. She is always around with a hug and a smile on a rough day and is a calming presence to have in the convent.
Becca is one of the funniest women you will ever meet. She has this ability to light up every room she goes into and is always willing to enjoy and new experience. But that is Becca up front, when you know her deeper, she has a strong since of compassion for others. She cares for all who enter her life and shows them love. Becca is not the type of girl to talk behind your back or judge you, she lives in the moment, laughs and cries with you.
Natalie has taught me to be flexible and ok with the emotions I experience on this trip. I enjoy our conversations from one bed to another about what we have experienced in the day. Natalie is someone I feel I can talk to about anything and everything and be heard and understood, people like this are important—keep them.
I always get asked from the children in Zambezi, “Where is Taylor?” Taylor is probably enjoying an adventure or getting connected with someone from her class. Taylor is always down for a little giggle or side quest through the market and brings so much joy and energy to our group here.
Three weeks into this trip I have learned what a gift it is to know Alea. She is here to learn from others, but subtly ends up teaching me daily. For example, thanks to her, today we visited one of her students, Chipego’s, cabbage farms where she encouraged us to lean in to this communal experience of working together to plant his garden. When we were done, Chipego was so proud of the work we had done and was beaming with joy. Without Alea we would have never seen the joy of Chipego doing what he loves. Alea brings out the passion and good in people, find ways to do this and you will meet people at their best.
Cate and I teach the computer and leadership class here and after class we always find ourselves in an awesome photo shoot with our students. This is something we can both laugh about, but we also have the ability to sit with these people. While to someone on the outside it might look odd for chindeles (foreigners) taking photos with local Zambians, it actually comes from us talking with our students about music, language and culture. Also, Cate has brought me back to times with friends and family by doing 10 for 10 with me, if you know you know. I really am glad I have Cate on this trip.
Sloane has this gentle wisdom about her, she always has the right advice to give and has one of the kindest souls. However, if you catch Sloane off guard, you will find a goofball. I am reminded of times where Sloane will crack a joke at the perfect time and everyone will laugh. She will come out of her shell and surprise everyone with her amazing acting like a baboon skills.
Kathleen and I would have never crossed paths if it weren’t for this trip, but boy am I glad we did. We have had such similar lives that have been so fun to dissect with each other through deep conversation. From both of us having families in Alaska to experiencing similar things through high school and college we have truly connected and think our moms should do the same. Kathleen and I have lived close together for most of our lives and had so many crossovers, yet this trip is the first time we have been brought together. When Kathleen speaks, I feel, I understand, I listen, I process. I need Kathleen on this trip to simply process together and follow the joy of Zambezi.
My name is Katy Topness, as you can read, I have found so many new role models and friends over the course of this trip. People who I would just walk past without a thought just a month ago have become a part of my story and my life at the same time. I thank these people for showing me how to accompany each other as we go through this new experience together. I will continue to look up to my peers who are actually walking aside me accompanying me through life. Without these people, this trip will not be the same, every one of these people has taught me something about living life and I am thrilled to do life with them going forward. The quintessence of life.
Katy Topness
School of Business Administration, Class of ‘27
PS, We are heading for an overnight in the rural town of Dipilata, so our next blog post won’t be until Wednesday.
PSS, I have a suggestion: Instead of commenting on my post, comment about the reason you read the blog, your Zag or Zags. I would love to hear what each person on this trip adds to your life.
Sorry for the long post, if you don’t know me personally feel free to skip this part:
- mom
Over the duration of this trip I have though a lot about all you have done for me the throughout my life and I am forever grateful for you and how you inspire me every day. You teach me so much daily and I miss your wisdom here in Zambezi and I can’t wait to tell you all about it, I’m alive and safe btw.
Speaking of all you do for me…
Text came through saying my prescription is ready at the rite aid on kitsap way!
- Dad
Thank you for always encouraging me to do my best and try my hardest in life. I have forever grateful for the sacrifices you have made to allow me to go on this trip. I am truly learning so much here and I know you are proud of me on this trip.
- Ali
I know you did so so good being Dorothy in your ballet!!! I can’t wait to watch it 🙂 also happy early 15th b day, stay safe in drivers ed, see yah soon sis!
- the Frank clan! I can’t wait to see you all over the summer, I miss you and the girls so much and have some awesome photos of animals from the safari to share with Mila and Remi!
- Mimi
Thank you for helping me go on this trip, I love and miss you so so much and hope you are rocking your new hair style!
- Grammy
I’m alive and safe, I am also so ready to jump in the pool when I venture back to Washington, I expect a new floaty and some sugar rolls, I love and miss you.
- Freja
Thanks for commenting my bestie, I hope you are well and so so so can’t wait to see you and 10 for 10 again, I have someone here for this purpose but it sometimes just makes me miss you more
- My “aunties” or the Katy fan club, thank you for reading and following along on this experience I miss you ladies so very much. Thank you for being my second moms throughout my life and always encouraging me to do things like this
- Franny
Threw it on the ground coming on in our blend last night while making jambalaya really made me think of u
- Marissa
Miss you so so much, can’t wait to see you and the fam very soon! Hopefully your kidney is ok at least and no more chemo is needed for a while!
- Bean
I miss you girl, thank you for following along and I hope to see you in Missoula or Spokane soon!
- 917 ladies and gents
Idk if yall are even reading this but I miss you all more than you know and Georgia and honorary roommate Alexia I am so excited for the rest of the summer with you!
Mom and Freja, I hope you get this to the right people 🙂
Hi! I really love and admire how you chose to write your blog post. It says a lot about you that you took your writing opportunity to talk about what you admire and see in those around you. It was heartwarming to read and it seems as though you’re having a wonderful experience and making friendships for life!
Mia! I miss you so much but I am so glad that you’re having such an incredible time. I really can’t wait to hear about everything but it’s great to be able to read these posts and hear about what you’re doing. It sucks not being able to talk to you every day. At home we’re just vibing in Oakland and Marin! Love Island just dropped so you’ve got a lotttt to catch up on! I still don’t have a job so pls send me some prayers. I have big plans for us all when you’re home! And hiii Ellie! It’s so wonderful to read about the awesome things you’re doing and connections you’re making and I’m just so happy for you guys. Sending so much love to my jits
Katyyyyyy!!!!
So SO happy to finally read your post and see some pics of you alive and well. I just texted your mom yesterday asking about when you get to post, crazy that it’s today! we joked about needing a sign of life, a group picture, something!
and you know i am reading these for you! hearing what you are up to is so fun, even though i know ill get a full debrief when you are home. I’ll make sure to send this to all your people, i miss you and see you soon!
Snoop this was so sweet to read. I absolutely loved reading about the special people you’ve met, and I know the memories and friendships you are making right now will last a lifetime. I’m so proud of everything you have accomplished and will continue to accomplish. Don’t worry, I’ll get you a Griz football ticket for the fall cant wait to call when you’re home and hear all of the details!
Katy, what a fun blog post. Thank you.
I read the blog to stay connected—to understand what the Zag family is encountering, to feel closer to Caroline M, and to be continually inspired by all of you. You truly are men and women for others, and the way you show up in Zambia gives me hope.
Katy, you described Caroline exactly as she is in our family, and I think that’s what I’ve missed most over the past two weeks—not just her presence, but the quiet connection she brings. Caroline and I always joke about her perfectly timed one-liners. Somehow, she knows exactly when to offer a comical yet respectful comment that cuts through tension, frustration, or even sadness. Her humor is subtle but spot on, and it adds so much to our home.
She may be quiet, but she’s always attentive. That quiet presence is one of the most heartwarming parts of who she is—genuine, steady, and deeply kind. Caroline has such a tender heart, and it shows in the way she treats everyone around her. You might remember my posts about Jack, our family Schnoodle—adopting him was entirely Caroline’s idea. Jack has a disability, and since we’d never had a dog before, I was hesitant. But Caroline looked at me and said, “Mom, how can we not adopt him?” That’s just how she approaches life—with empathy, compassion, and an unwavering sense of what’s right.
Caroline’s strong faith is another part of her that I cherish deeply. It’s something we connect over often, and it continually inspires me to seek and trust more fully. Her faith grounds her, and in turn, it grounds those around her.
Caroline, I miss you more than you know. I am so proud of the heart and light you bring into the world. Keep showing up with your quiet strength and kind spirit—you’re doing beautifully. We can’t wait to have you back home, but until then, know that I’m cheering you on every step of the way. And hey—could I BE any prouder?
Hi Katy, I love that you shined a light on each of your new found friends. I read this blog to here the views of all of you on how your see Zambezi and the people you are meeting. Most of all to get a proof of life of Kathleen. Just a glimpse of her to know she is doing well. I am glad you and Kathleen found each other, and your similarities. I hope and pray that you all continue to grow and enjoy your time in Zambezi.
I sure love reading these blogs, why you ask? It gives me an opportunity to view the Zambian experience through all of your different perspectives and honestly, it’s my only connection with Kathleen. I’m sure Kathleen has shared that she is our youngest, Covid and other experiences have made us very close. I miss her with ever fiber of my being and not hearing her voice, getting a MOM text, or seeing my daily cat videos on Instagram has been harder than I anticipated.
I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in drinking up every word that is written about the Gonzaga in Zambia family. Thank you Katy for showcasing the beautiful things about your cohort. Your words made me laugh out loud multiple times – the gift of a live chicken and then having to cook it for dinner is something I’ll chuckle about for days.
Kathleen – love and miss you!
Hello Zags!
First off, I want to thank Natalie for the picture of Sean included in your entry yesterday. It is so good to get a glimpse into your lives and to see you all thriving.
Katy, thank you for your post today. I will be real and honest… I have not taken the time to read all the wonderful things you had to say about your fellow Zags … but I did skim to find Sean’s name. 😉 So true — passion and purpose. Sean pours his heart into what he does… but always finds/creates a reason to do it. Yes, learning from each experience he has. I can’t wait to hear about Mustafa … and to see the shirt! Know that I love and miss you, my SonSean!
What an amazing reflection Katy, it is so beautiful how small things about people have grown to be something you know and love about each of them. It made me think of how so many things in this universe have had to pull each of you together to be here, in this time and place. I hope you continue to notice the small things, because they really are big things.
Murph, AKA Caroline M., missing you very much. Hope you loved the chicken and I really hope said chicken lives to tell the tale . Love ya lots!
So proud of all of you Zags!
Katy, thank you for posting such a beautiful message and for writing about all of your new friends and the lessons you are all learning about vulnerability.
We miss Caroline O so very much and these blogs allow us to get a small glimpse of the incredible work you are all doing, and for a few short minutes it makes us feel like we are there with you. Caroline has a quiet strength, a tender heart, and a perspective that lifts everyone around her (except her younger sisters). 🙂 She has a way of making people feel seen and truly loved. This is one of the many reasons I’m counting down the days until her safe return.
Katy! Your post not only captures the unique beauty of those around you but your words make clear how you choose to walk through life. You have made a choice to attend to those around you and to value what each unique individual contributes to the group. I admire this! (Sorry…I had to comment a little on your post, it was just so wonderful!)
As to why I read the blog… Initially, I was reading solely to get a glimpse of my girl. To learn even the smallest detail about her day. After all, there is just nothing better than watching those that you love do what they love. Seeing and hearing about Taylor’s adventures just makes my day! Though I still read for this reason of course, I am also now reading to learn something new from each of you. I love learning about new places and new people. I love learning about how life is lived in another part of the world. I love learning how you all continue to challenge yourselves each day. You all make me want to be a better, more reflective human.
And finally…sweet Taylor Anne! Well simply put, Taylor is the sunshine in our world. Life is brighter, better, and just a lot more fun when she is around. You were so right, she IS always up for an adventure and I love that about her. She is my hiking buddy, my “running” buddy, my travel buddy, my reading buddy, my game buddy, my Netflix buddy, and the list goes on. The beautiful thing is, now I get to share her with the world AND I get to hear about how she is these things and more to others. What a gift as a mom!
Your trip will be with you forever and give you the wisdom to look deeper in all of your life’s encounters, Have a wonderful time and cherish this oppertunity
Katy, you generous soul. Did you know you were giving every blog reader a superbig treat by mentioning (each and every one of) our person? I think you did know. Thank you.
I’ve recently spoken to why I read the blog and how that’s shifted from “what’s MY kid doing?” to “what will I learn today, how will I be moved to feeling/thinking about things more deeply.” So I’ll leave that there and move to your next prompt.
Mia is my person in your ZamFam. She’s my daughter. And her absence has made me appreciate and realize how much I simply delight in her, in being connected to the small and big things in her daily life. The words you use about how she adds to your Zambezi life are “cool, confident, best effort.” It’s wonderful to hear you describe her in her role as a teacher. Thank you! Mia’s absence shines a light on what I have always been aware she adds to my life:
love, joy, connection, laughter, purpose, hope,
inspiration to be a better person (for her and in general),
invitation to be more flexible (which *she* is but, me? Notsomuch),
FUN and pride. These are the things Mia adds to my life.
No pressure, Mia, but … um … life is *so* less joyful without our silly texts. I have nowhere to send all the dumb reels. I miss figuring stuff out together, being of help to you if I can be, hearing about your day and following you (and the good people you always have in your life) along as you grow. I think what I miss most right now is having that front row seat to your daily life. I thought I knew how much that connection meant to me. You don’t really get that until it goes missing while the rest of your life stays the same. I’m not even asking for access to that super-entertaining spam account now. 😉 I will MOST GRATEFULLY take today’s glimpse of you (possibly ambivalently?) rearranging cabbage plants. There she is. There’s my most cherished girl!
Mia adds SO much to my life. But JOY and pride likely top the list. Our shared humor means a ton to me and man, I miss sharing in it. But this absence of connection is giving me an opportunity to respect the value of how this distance and disconnection (from me, her friends, the world) is undoubtedly growing and challenge her in ways that are big and can only happen in this way. I just miss knowing she’s okay. And based on the loving, thoughtful reflections I read from you all here … I am trusting she is. But I have no road map for this. No script. I mean, Rory only went as far a Yale and still came back for Friday night dinners with Lorelai, Emily and Richard. I’m over my skiis here!
Mia also adds inspiration to my life. She IS a good teacher. And I learn from her. I have a tremendous amount of respect for how — as she has grown up — Mia has handled things that have been painful or challenging. How she doesn’t avoid areas of personal challenge, but seeks support when she needs it. I am so grateful for the trust she continues to put in me. And as I tear up here, I pray that I am worthy of it. Our shared trust and connection is one of the most precious things in my life.
Mia has a love for life … she tries new things, makes connections easily, adores her friends and people. I am grateful for how forgiving of me she is when I’m less than stellar or get it wrong. Mia is trustworthy. She has a well developed conscience. She surrounds herself with lovely people. She tries stuff (hard, adventurous stuff!). Even stuff that scares her. She is LOVING. She does not waste opportunities. Mia does not ask for a lot. She is appreciative, gracious and joy to support. She’s funny and loving and musical and thoughtful and compassionate and boundaried and curious and ambitious. Mia is kind. She has an emotional intelligence I appreciate and have a high regard for. She knows what she won’t accept and if she loves you, she will let you know. Mia is more tender than she lets on. She keeps some of that tenderness and hurt under wraps. She is talented and forgetful and creative and clever (so clever).
Have I gone off-topic? Probably. Will I ever stop wanting to write about all Mia adds to my life and those around her? Unlikely. Have I shown any ability thus far to leave a *brief* comment? Zero. So if I’ve embarrassed you here, Mia … PLEASE BLAME KATY. 😉 This was *her* prompt. 🙂 (I know I write too much every day — and every day I try to write less words and the restraint never holds).
I love you, Mia. My heart is cheering yours on. Always and often.
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12:02 AM in Oakland. 9:02 AM in Zambezi.
Safe travels to Dipilata, ZamFam!
xoxo.
Elisa/Mama
Thank you Katy! Piper’s Dad and I read the blog every morning with our coffee (and if you ask Piper, she’ll tell you how important that coffee is!) and it’s like welcoming a whole new world into our lives every time—sharing in all of your experiences from all of your different perspectives has created depth of knowledge about the multi faceted world you are living in. What a tremendous honor you’ve done here to preserve not only the people who are making up this community with you every day but how you’ve so thoughtfully expressed and archived essences of their humanness in a moment or how they move through a space. This is truly a precious gift that you will have when you’re thinking back on this time and want to feel, and see, and breathe all the resonances of what you lived in Zambia.
As for what Piper adds to my life, there is not enough room or even the right words most of the time for me to express the profound impact she has had on me. For someone who got to be Piper’s mom in unexpected ways, I can’t imagine my life without her. As I said on her post, selfishly, my life is so much better with her in it. Her humor, her depth, her perseverance, her unconditional love of not only me but of all those around her, no matter who they are—these are just a few of the ways my Zag lights up this world. Thank you for taking the time to describe your market experience with Piper! I could see and hear each moment of joy, each time you created laughter and community through language and movement. I am grateful.
Katy,
Thanks for the post highlighting each of these amazing people individually. I was disciplined and read about each one, while yearning to jump and find Piper’s section. Then I got to it and read it with such joy and pride, and then read that part to Karin. And we talked about how amazing Piper is and did our own hoping and dreaming about what these experiences will lead to for her. I’ve joked over the years about what small country Piper may wind up ruling…but what that teasing really veils is a profound respect for Piper’s power and compassion and resilience and the many qualities of a “philosopher king (or queen)” who strives to truly understand if not achieve the Good, the Common Good, the Truth, Beauty, and most importantly JUSTICE! Whether in small ways, such as the injustice of getting her up earlier than she sees fit for which you will pay, to being both the whistleblower and a compassionate yet blunt judge in a complex family system, to being the one who calls to get support for figuring out the equity and fairness among roommates and leases, to the one who asks about endowments and pressuring her university to divest (what freshman is concerned about that), to the pure love and support she gives to her niece Harlow and nephew Huxley and her sister Hannah and to know how much those kids adore their auntie Piper and to know how much they will learn from her and be inspired, to her constant fight for the underdog, the unseen, the underprivileged, those who take up less “space” than most, those discriminated against and oppressed…she sees them all, and that can be a great burden. So, to see all of this in her while also reading your story of the market, and to know that she’s dancing, and laughing, and struggling with language, and challenging herself along with all the Zags and all the humans you are meeting…is GOOD and TRUE and BEAUTIFUL and JUST and we love our Piper so much there’s a knot in my stomach and a lump in my throat anticipating when I get to see her and be with her in a few weeks. Piper , I’m flying to OR on Wed June 25 through Mon June 30!!!! I love you Piper…and thanks so much for the stories Katy!
KATY I MISS YOU MY SWEET GIRL! IM SOOO EXCITED TO SEE YOU SO SO SO SOOOOO SOON! Hopefully I’ll have unpacked everything by then LOL. Excited for summer and to hear all your incredible stories!! Big thanks to Freya for sending me the link! Looks like you’re having a blast!
Mom here!!! I think I can breathe again!!!! Katy I was at a yacht rock concert at chateau st michelle when I decided to check this and needless to say everyone wanted to know why the hell i was crying out of nowhere hahaha! Then shortly after that stupid song by Toto “Africa” came on and it started all over And here I wondered if you made some new friends…WOW!!!!!!! We must have this crew over to the house for a bonfire and boating!!!! And I’m pretty sure yu made the day of a LOT of mamas with this post! Ali had her final choir recital which lasted almost 3 hours. Sheesh Rodenko!!! Alums got up to sing the goodnight song and I so wished you could have been there to be with Ali! I can’t believe you are home in almost a week!!! Oh! And I think our assignment was to talk about our Zag, yes? My Katy girl is one of the realest people you’re going to find on this planet. She’s a truly loyal friend and I’m sure by now you’ve all been blessed by her humor and Katy-like ways by now which are all wonderful She has always been told she is wise beyond her years and I can only imagine how much more that will be after this experience!! I admire her every single day and I want to be just like her when I grow up (maybe with a little less of the Topness stubbornness but we’ll figure that out later haha) Katy I love you and I kept closing my eyes when I read your post and tried to visualize you there and everything you’re doing. You may need to create a PowerPoint presentation with all of your photos when you get home ENJOY this next week and I will be right there to pick you up next Monday my girl!!!!!
Oh Katy! Your deep insight, sincerity, love of people, and amazing articulation are gifts that will take you so far in whatever path you choose. It sounds like you have achieved my wish for you on this trip, a deeper understanding of yourself and all you bring to the table! My bet is that recalling the moment of not freaking out when accepting the gift of a chicken will serve you well in many future situations. Through this post you gave several families a precious gift of expressing that others also appreciate the beauty they see in their child or maybe even learning about a hidden strength. You are so generous with your love and always have been!
You are so very right that life is all about the people in your community. We were so blessed when our families merged by luck and choice! We love you like our own. You do have the best Auntie fan club (and sister from another mother) hands down! Thank you Mimi and Gampy to introducing us to the world of Gonzaga. Sport that cherry tattoo with pride! Keep dancing! (I’ll let your Mom remind you to stay healthy n safe)
So very happy for you all on this trip. Some of the best gifts to require hard work,
Katy – Thank you for such a thoughtful post and for highlighting the beauty about each person in your new community. It brings your trip to life! I love how you chose to explain what makes each person special to you. What a gift you have to truly see others and honor them for their uniqueness.
We miss you Natalie, and totally agree with Katy that you have a gift for making others feel heard and understood. You are such a loyal and accepting friend friend to others and one of the most thoughtful people I know! Others Counting down the days until you are home:-). We Love You!
It is so kind of you to choose to use your blog post to bring light to what your group is doing. I can confirm that Ellie does bring joy to the most mundane moments. She takes after her mother and maybe I can take after her. The reason Ellie adds to my life is that she is kind and honest and does not shield me from the truth. She comes from a huge family that loves family time. When I had to move states, I will never forget spending my last night in Portland at her house and crying much harder on the porch at 4am when I had to say goodbye to her than I did saying bye to my parents. Ellie is not the friend who will just be there when you are crying she will cry with you for your story. She is such an empath and loves her people without guard. When she loses someone, her love is palpable in her grief. My family fondly refers to Ellie as my momsisterlover because she worries and tries to protect me like a mother, she spends time and energy on our friendship like a boyfriend and lets me pretty much live in her family like a sister. I have never seen someone who shows as much excitement for other people’s lives as Ellie does. She demands a story out of everyone. One time, she came to visit me here at UCSB, and I left her at the library with one of my friends while I was in lab. When I came back, she knew everything about him from his family to his future plans and sense of humor. I have never met someone with so many friends that are not associated in any way. You should see her on her few free days in Portland. She will drive to every corner of the city in a day to spend time with a friend from every walk of life. She is truly the most giving person with her time and this trip is the ultimate example of that. Ellie, I am so proud of you in all that you do. I can’t wait to hear YOUR stories when you are back. You all enjoy her while you have her. Love ya.
Katy this was so beautiful! I am sure that the bond you have all made with eachother is unbreakable. This is such a special experience and I am so happy you guys are all getting to soak up this time with each other. Mia you are super cool duh and hearing about it working in ways people don’t see at school is so cool. Ellie I so badly wanna just go to your house I miss you so much. I love you and I can’t wait for you to be home and for us to celebrate the big 20 YAY you are such a joyful person just like Katy said and I’m happy another part of the world gets to expiernce your joy. Prayers and love for all of you guys! Keep being you and doing great things.
Thank you so much katy i hope your having fun and experiencing amazing things!
You’ve hit the nail on the head about why I read this! Lucia was absolutely thrilled about you amazing humans. I’m curious to know You (the capitalized “Y” is not a typo). And wow, you, parents, are hilarious! Let’s just say you’re far more lively than we were, and the love radiating from you all is incredible. We desperately need this outpouring of joy and love in our world as you know. I didn’t get to meet all the students last year—the heart of the community. I’ll sleep better tonight knowing that you’re holding Lucia, who needs water (they know what I mean ). I come here to ensure my child’s well-being, and since you are One, I know she is. Thank you
PS: I also LOVE reading your reflections (I am Lucia mom, lol), but tonight, I needed this.
Love, Love, Love,
Michelle
Love, Love, Love,
Michelle
Katy thank you a wonderful insight into everyone there with you.
Why i read the blog, to be honest I have skipped a few recently just because of life. But when I do it is to get some insight into my son’s experience. I love to see life through his eyes. I am so proud of him and love getting any insight into what he is doing. He inspires me to think with purpose and be a positive impact on others.
Hi Zam Zags!
It made my heart so happy to see photos of the Chipego’s cabbage farm! As I’m sure Loosh has shared with you all, he was a student of ours last year where he created his plan for the farm, and it is very full circle to see pictures on the blog. Please tell him I say hello! If you have a free afternoon, find a spot in the courtyard and ask Chipego about his story. That afternoon was one of the most transformational experiences I had in Zambezi.
I read the blog because man I miss the beautiful community of Zambezi! I would give anything to be back watching the stars in the Dip, watching water boil over a braiser and a good conversation, or going on a market run to visit my friend Veronica at the phone store.
The seeds planted in my heart in Zambezi are still teaching me new lessons every day. I know I felt a huge weight to accurately express how deeply my experiences in Zambezi were transforming me both through the blog and once I returned home. And to be honest, a year later, and words still don’t feel adequate enough. Be kind and patient with yourself. Transformation is happening. Even if that is hard to convey in words.
I hope you enjoy your last week, and accept Jeff’s challenge of “we still have x whole days left.”
Loosh- proud of you always and can’t wait share the adventures of the last month when we both return home!!
Love,
Emily Even (Zam Fam ‘24)
I like the Zag Zam blog because it gives me and I’m sure all us parents an appreciation for the Jesuit approach to cultivating men and women for others. The trip you all have embarked on will undoubtedly change you in one way or another and the blog reflections are surely a testament to that!
Our sweet Caroline M impresses me more and more everyday. She is focused and determined for the things she wants to accomplish. She has a strong work ethic and takes her studies seriously. She loves to be goofy with her mon and their “Jack Talk”… and has a very kind heart. She also has a strong opinion (like her Big Guy) but that makes my heart smile because she advocates for herself and won’t just accept the status quo. Love you and miss you kiddo! (Emoji: Love You, Shaka, Rock On, I win!)
Thank you, Katy, for your post! What a lovely recap of the way each of you has shown up on this incredible journey of accompaniment. Similar to what someone else mentioned in an earlier reply, I am so in awe of the questions you’re all asking and reflecting on, the way you are pushing yourselves out of your comfort zones, the deep and meaningful connections you are making, the wonderful and challenging experiences you are embracing, and the lessons you are learning.
All of your reflections carry profound insight and wisdom, especially at such a young age. It’s incredibly inspiring to see how deeply you’re thinking, how you’re all supporting each other, and the special friendships you are making.
What I’ve taken from your posts is that real accompaniment requires courage, to be vulnerable, to step into discomfort, and to stay present along the way. Your writing has taught me that accompaniment is not just a concept, it’s something you live and practice, day by day, through relationships built on trust, empathy, and presence.
One practice I will take with me, inspired by what I’ve learned from you all, is to be more intentional about showing up for others with presence. Thank you all for that reminder. I also hope to carry forward an increased willingness to push through fear, uncertainty, and challenge, not by striving to control or avoid it, but by choosing to walk through it with openness and compassion, just as you all have so beautifully done.
Sarah, I can’t wait to HUG you and hear about everything! We love you so much and miss you! I’m excited I can now say – See you soon!!!
Katy- I just loved reading your post and astute observations about your ZamFam. And from reading the other parents’ responses, you are spot on! What a gift you have to be able to “see” people and I’m sure that skill has gone a long way to help you connect with so many on this trip.
I’ve loved reading every single one of your posts every single day. At first, it was more out of nervousness hoping that you were safe settling in. But very quickly I came to find inspiration on so many levels. Each of you have such depth to your souls and unique perspectives that have made me take pause and look at my own life in a different way. I can’t believe that you all are only 20 ( or so) which seems young to someone in their 50’s- but wow, I am amazed at how much I’ve learned from each of you.
As for my dear Sloane, I agree she had the best combo of wise and goofy! She has always had incredible intuition reading people and seeing exactly what they need whether it’s to laugh or just to be hugged. She is a fiercely loyal friend to those who earn that privilege. I also love that she will try anything! Well, maybe not some foods, but she will jump into any new activity or experience full throttle. This trip is a perfect example of an opportunity she researched and set her sight on. She is remarkably comfortable getting uncomfortable because she strives for personal growth. I love every second of being your mom, Balone, and can’t wait to see you in a few weeks to hear about all your adventures/thoughts/experiences in person. Hugs!
Much love to you all, Amy
Helloooooo
Reading this blog has seriously become one of my favorite things ever. It’s such a joy to read everyone’s perspectives. I don’t want to be repetitive, but I love the different prompts and the unique ways you all respond to them. They just feel so personal.
Katy, what you did with your piece was absolutely beautiful. I’m sure (as they say in Portland) you’re a wonderful human.
But I won’t lie… every single time I start a new blog post, I find myself secretly searching for hints in the sentence structure that it’s Ellie — my pretty blonde american sister — behind it.
The fact that literally everyone I’ve met this year knows about you perfectly sums up how much you mean to me — just from knowing you for (almost!) three years now. Crazy. I cannot shut up about how cool, fun, loving, and selfless you are. Every time I see Luca, Giada, Vale, Ari, Sofi C., or Isa, they all ask immediately about you.
As Mia’s mom said in her comment — I miss having a front-row seat to your not-so-mundane everyday life. I’m sure by now everyone knows just how fun the Davies kitchen-cleaning parties can be. I wonder what music you’re listening to lately, what new things you’re discovering… and I really hope everyone around you gets to hear your laugh.
I meant to go on and on about how rare it is to find someone like you, but I think Mal — another one of the greatest humans ever — already put it perfectly. So instead, I’ll just say this: I’m so glad people are recognizing your generosity, your empathy, and the way you make others feel truly heard and seen. That’s the purest form of love there is. Letting me into your life the way you did when I came to Portland, that was a kind of love and generosity I’ll never forget and I think one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me.
I miss your reassuring words more than I can say. I have two big things coming up this week : one is the private law exam, and the other involves a Vespa !! I’ll keep you updated :))
I hope you’re giving love the way Coco taught you to — and I deeply hope you’re putting on sunscreen and not getting sunburnt.
You are and always will be my favorite person. I can’t wait to do more life together.
Everyone in my circle — friends and family — sends you so much love. They all know what a treasure you are. Keep shining and keep giving and sharing love, just as you always have.
Con tantissimo amoreeee,
Your Italian sister,
Sofiiii
Thank you, Katy, for your wonderful blog and for taking the time to talk about each Zag!
So special for us back home to have a glimpse into each person’s gifts and their role in this awesome group. The blog has been a blessing not only to stay updated on your adventures but more profoundly to hear your insights and philosophy on accompaniment, travel and life in general! You are all inspiring us with each entry!
Cate is the light of our lives! She brings the joy, laughter, music, humor (usually dry), astute observations and so many other amazing things to our world. I am always inspired by Cate willingness to take on a challenge and perseverance in the face of set-backs. We love you, Cate!
Shout out to Becca for encouraging Cate to join this trip! It is wonderful to have a friend who shares your sense of adventure!!