The power of forging a connection

Selfie of some Zags enjoying the sunset at the Zambezi River!

Growing up, I always had a fear of talking to people I did not know. I would hide behind my parents’ back and I was very shy. My family would know that I made them talk for me whenever I was introduced to a stranger. As I have gotten older, I have learned the importance of stepping out of my comfort zone and trying new things. One of those being talking to strangers. Little Lily found them to be very scary and quite tall. Throughout my life, I have always found myself being willing to try new things and step out of my comfort zone, such as trying out for new sports, starting an instrument, going out for clubs in high school and college, and just recently saying “yes” to this trip. Through each of these experiences, I have been forced to talk to people I did not know. Despite this, by making conversations with strangers, I have made some meaningful connections through each of those experiences like meeting my best friends in high school who I am so grateful to have such a meaningful connection with to this day, meeting the friends who have made my college experience amazing so far and now a new powerful connection with my ZamFam. The power of connection is that it brings us together and allows us to learn and grow from one another while also having a lasting impact.

Throughout my time in Zambia, I have learned that I must be comfortable stepping out of my comfort zone and talking to strangers in order to make a connection. Coming into this trip, my biggest fear was not being able to forge a connection with any of the Zambians I would come across. I have learned during my time here that this fear would only linger for so long.

Safari group + the GOAT Mr. T

The first example of a connection that was formed was with my safari tour guide, Mr. T. He told us about his passion for animals and his experience growing up in the bush. Something I believe is a true gift is being able to forge a connection with animals since they cannot speak to us. Being an avid animal lover and someone who says, “aww so cutie” or “hi sweetie” to every animal I see, I found Mr. T’s connection to the wildlife we saw to be inspiring. He followed his dreams and now has the privilege of teaching people about animals. This reminded me of when we got an impromptu tour of the University of Zambia given by Dr. Mwanza. At the end of his tour, he told us, “Lead a purpose driven life and let’s change the world together. Do what makes you happy, keep following your passions. Consistency is the ultimate key.” I have thought about this every day, but especially on the safari because Mr. T followed his passions and is striving to make the world a better place by educating visitors on the importance of respecting and protecting our wildlife. This inspires me to follow my passion to save as many animals as I can, so people like Mr. T can educate our society on animals and together, we can make an impact on this world. By making connections with people even in the smallest ways, we can gain knowledge, grow as humans, and make a difference together. In my case, forming a connection with the animals I encountered and Mr.T’s vast knowledge and expressive passion will continue to inspire me to make a difference in animals’ lives.

The iconic health group post-hospital shadowing

Throughout my time in Zambezi, the power of connection is even stronger. Whether it be walking around the market and learning about a Zambian’s family in 30 seconds, learning from the doctors and nurses in the hospital, or teaching a group of students. On the very first day in the Zambezi District Hospital, I have gained a connection to Dr. Mulongti. He has taught me how to treat patients with respect, find community in times of hardship and putting others before yourself. I have even been building connections with two nurses: Charity and Jane. Their willingness to take time out of their day and give us a 20-minute lesson on an illness or medication, or being open to discussing the disparities in the hospital just shows how welcoming and friendly the Zambian people have been to me. Learning to be comfortable in starting a conversation with people I once did not know has now led me to create a connection with individuals who are striving to make a difference in their patients’ lives, their community, and make me feel welcomed to a foreign place.  The connections forged have been a meaningful part of my experience.

Additionally, I have begun to form a connection with Mama Katendi and Mama Christine. A few days ago, I was Mama’s assistant where I helped them prepare lunch and dinner for my ZamFam. For some reason I was terrified going into it because I didn’t know the conversations I should have. Despite my fear, they instantly welcomed me and made me feel like I belonged. They taught me how to properly peel an onion, cut cabbage into small pieces as well as how they prepare rice here. They even trusted me enough to cut all the fruit and vegetables for dinner. Also, Mama Katendi kindly let me play the entire Harry Styles discography (yes, all 2 hours and 51 minutes) after I said he was my favorite artist (I’m still unsure if I converted her to fan or not lol). After homestays, both Mamas gave the Zags a hug and said they missed us. Mama Christine taught Lauryn and I how to say, “Welcome home” in Luvale. The health group even got her to dance along with us to “Meet Me Halfway” in one of our pre-hospital dance-it-out moments. From being strangers a week ago, to now being able to make memories with them, I feel as though I have already made a powerful connection with both and the interactions I have had will stick with me when I return home.

ZamFam enjoying dinner with no electricity and our headlamps as our light source #Headlampsforthewin

Lastly, the connections I am developing with my ZamFam is one to be grateful for. After being complete strangers back in January and scared to talk to everyone, to now being the people who I have laughed the hardest with in a long time is something so meaningful. From jumping off Batoka Bridge together, to the health group dancing it out to “Beauty and a Beat” before walking to the hospital. To our daily market adventures, sunsets, and connections made through Homestays. To figuring out how to cook breakfast for the whole ZamFam while listening to our Spotify playlist. To learning how to properly dance from the Gabbie’s (the St. Gabriel’s Youth Organization at Our Lady of Fatima), to having our Mamma Mia moment and dancing and singing to “Dancing Queen” in the kitchen at 10:30pm. The connections I have forged are some that I will never forget. Learning how to navigate through the unknowns, new places, and challenges with my ZamFam by side has made me extremely grateful that I stepped out of my comfort zone, put myself out there and said “Yes” to this trip. Learning to humanize, accompany, and complicate with this group of Zags has made every connection developed so powerful. The connections forged with my ZamFam have made this journey so beautiful.

With love,
Lily Fisher

ZamFam 26
Class of 2029

Notes to family:

Mom, Dad, and Brennan: I miss you all so very much, words cannot even describe. Mom, it is so weird not watching the World Series with you this year, but I appreciate all the updates given so far. Any more updates? At my Homestays we drank black tea and it made me think of our Starbucks runs and you ordering black tea.  Also, do you have any Harry Styles updates? I must know his setlist, I am so curious. Tell the family I say hello. Dad and Brennan, I have seen so much old Chicago sports merch, and it’s made me think of you every time. Do you have any Cubs updates? How is PCA doing? Also, Dad, you would be proud of how many “figure it out” moments I have had, but then actually figured it out! Love you all so much and cannot wait to see you so soon! Please keep me updated on your daily lives. Get hype for a Michigan drive and Starbucks debrief soon!

P.S. I will be thinking of you all on the 6th and tell the Gerards I say hello, and I am thinking of them as well. Take pictures if you can and let me know how it goes.

To the rest of my family: I love and miss you all so much. I cannot wait to see you soon, debrief my experience, and hear all about what you are up to. Thank you for reading along on this journey!

To my friends at school: I miss you all so much and I cannot wait to debrief everything with you. I hope you are enjoying your summer, talk to you so soon! (In a spooky way)

To my Illinois friends: I miss you all so so so much and I cannot wait for an Olive Garden and Andy’s debrief. See you so very soon!

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45 Responses to The power of forging a connection

  1. Caroline Murphy says:

    Lily, I loved your post! The part about the Mamas really made me smile. There was a moment last year when Taylor and I miserably failed cooking fried rice on the brazier outside. Mama Christine came outside and patiently showed us how to do it properly, assuring us it would still taste good. It’s those small moments of connection and accompaniment that leave such a deep impact. Keep finding those little human moments each day!

    MP: headband looks excellent. Also, I have been wondering if you have been converted to a peanut butter lover yet? I mean, Dr. Nutz is some of the best stuff out there. On that note, how much peanut butter is this group going through? Would love to hear if you’re beating our record from last year!

    Taylor: currently going through a bit of a Daniel-like situation and could really use your advice. At least I have your Spotify playlists to listen to!

    Love,
    Caroline
    ZamFam ‘25

    • Caroline Oromchian says:

      CAROLINE WHAT WE TEXT EVERYDAY I WANT TO KNOW ABOUT THE DANIEL SITUATION

    • Caroline Murphy says:

      MP: the UT women’s rowing team (V8) just set a world record and won the national championship! They rowed a 2k in 5:47, 6 seconds faster than the previous world record. Insane.

  2. Ella (Meg’s sister) says:

    Megs!

    Firewall is awful! I am still trying to win the competition! I love you!

  3. Andrea - Sam’s Mo says:

    Love the ZamFam dinner picture- and with headlamp light- very appropriate! We’re thinking of you all.
    Sam- 85 degrees in Oly today but dad won’t let us turn the A/C on- lol. Only two more weeks for OSD…and then you’re home too- yay! We are excited to see you but don’t want your fabulous experience to end- Love you more!

  4. Sarah and Todd Fisher Lily’s Parents John and Marita O’Malley Lily’s grandparents says:

    It was so nice to see your smiling face and we are so excited to hear about all the adventures you are able to have Keep on speaking out and learning new things Love you Miss you Can not wait for our Starbucks runs Love Grandma and Grandpa

  5. Anna Steiner says:

    Hi Lily it’s Anna! I loved reading this and glad you are making wonderful connections with so many new people! I hope you continue to have an amazing time and can’t wait to hear even more when I see you again! I miss you lots and can’t wait to see you this fall!

  6. Brennan Fisher says:

    Hi Lily, I hope you are doing well. I really loved your post and am glad to see that you are blossoming into who you will become. I cannot wait to watch an Adam Sandler movie and get Andy’s when you get home. Also I hope you keep developing these skills and use them at home!

  7. Sarah O'Malley-Fisher (Lilys Mom) says:

    Lily – Connection has always been a part of your person and will be a driving force as you jump into the world of advocating for the ones who cannot speak. You are learning the value of what a kind work, hug or a smile can do to leave a mark on those around you. You have given us that every day being gifted you as a daughter. Dad and I miss you so much and cannot find words for how proud we are of you. (Hope you can feel the air hugs coming your way) Thank you for giving us names and vivid descriptions once again to visualize your journey with your ZamFam.
    Continue to jump headfirst into the next 2 weeks and continue to enjoy the ride.

    Updates
    Dad and I have been picking things out for the coach house in Michigan. They are just waiting on the inspectors. We also got to see the new tiny house. It looks great and will be delivered the 24th of June as of today. That trip to Michigan with Starbucks is much anticipated.

    Cubs are in 4th place. Had a 10-game losing streak but are still above .500. PCA is doing okay. Still growing as a player hitting and making fantastic plays in the outfield.

    WS- Texas vs. Texas Tech. Both had to come thru the loser’s bracket and win 2x yesterday. The number of homeruns hit has been insane. Jordy Frahm announced she was pregnant immediately after they lost Sunday. She played the last month knowing. It was a cute Instagram post with 2 adult cowboy boots and a set of baby cowboy boots (neutral in color). Finals start tomorrow.

    Harry reportedly invited Taylor Swift to his wedding, BUT Swift did not invite him to hers. (Dad found that update) Who know on that one, but it is news on the HARRY front. Glad you can share your love for his music with new people.

    We will let the Gerard’s know you are thinking about them. It will be a great day on Saturday remembering the amazing person Mr. Gerard was. Know he is with you and would have been so excited to hear all about your trip.

    We love you so much. Keep treating people with kindness and a smile) Love you always and forever and Be Safe.

    Mom and Dad

  8. Sarah O'Malley-Fisher (Lilys Mom) says:

    Lily – one more thing- pealing an onion! Looks like you can cook and will have to show us those skills when you come home.
    MOM

  9. Kate Cornfeld (Lily's Friend) says:

    LILY BLOGGED!!! I love the honesty in this post so much. I feel like I can tell how much you are loving this experience just from the excited way you write about it. I can’t wait to hear every detail when you get back. I miss you so much!! The marmots miss you too (in a lurkey way). I hope the sunset walks are amazing at that you are living every moment to the fullest! PS, my photos app showed me a memory today and it was a pic of us before we ran up doomsday hill. It made me so psyched for our future half, even if doomsday is at mile 10 instead of mile 5.

  10. Caroline Oromchian says:

    Lily!! I loved all of this. ESPECIALLY the showing Harry Styles to the mamas!!! Seriously though, I am so glad that this trip given so many opportunities for connection. Jeff is going to laugh when I say this, maybe MP and Isa too, but I used to be the shyest kid ever. Like actually never talked to a soul. I would scowl at everyone. Coming out of my shell in middle school and fully throughout high school has changed my life because without human connection, I can’t imagine what life would be like. Zambezi taught me that you don’t need to have 3 weeks in a town to make connections, you just need 5 minutes and a willingness to slow down and really listen. Proud of you for doing that!!!

    A little treat from one fan to the other: the Harry Styles setlist: Are you Listening Yet?, Golden, Adore You, Watermelon Sugar, Music for a Sushi Restaurant, Taste Back, Coming Up Roses, Fine Line, American Girls, Keep Driving, Ready Steady Go, Dance No More, TPWK, Pop, Season 2 Weight Loss, Carla’s Song, Aperture, Love of my life, Sign of the Times, and As It was.

    Yesterday, I went to Dunkin’ to get a donut and the guy gave me a second one for free. Humanity is good!!!

    Love,
    Weenie
    12:26pm in California, 9:26pm in Zambia

  11. Doug Stepenske says:

    Lily,

    Its Uncle Doug. I am so happy that we got to hear from you today and you are amazing journey so far. So many wonderful experiences and life lessons that you are able to have half the world away in a world so different than any of us have ever experienced before. Keep having fun and taking mental notes so we can all catch up when you are back.

  12. Aunt Julia says:

    HIII Lily!!!
    This all sounds like such a life changing adventure.
    I remember little Lily never wanting to leave your momma!! So proud of your for taking on this experience!!
    Harry’s set list. Um just amazing!!!!
    Are You Listening Yet?
    Golden
    Adore You
    Watermelon Sugar
    Music for a Sushi Restaurant
    Taste Back
    Coming Up Roses
    Fine Line
    American Girls
    Keep Driving
    Ready, Steady, Go!
    Dance No More
    Treat People With Kindness /
    This Must Be the Place (Talking Heads cover)
    PopSeason 2
    Weight Loss
    Carla’s Song /
    Satellite (mashup)
    Aperture
    Matilda
    Sign of the Times
    Encore—-
    Paint by Numbers
    As It Was

  13. Nicole and Sean says:

    Hey Lily, I loved reading your post. Uncle Sean and I are excited to hear more about the trip when you return home. Also, can’t wait to see some pictures. This seems like an amazing experience for you and I am so happy for you. We love you and will see you soon
    Love ya,
    Aunt Nicole and Uncle Sean

  14. Marguerite Menard says:

    Lily!!! This is an amazing blog post. Reading it, I could hear your voice, and I found your words to be sooo impactful. I am so happy to hear that you are making connections with Zambians and your ZamZags alike. Just reading about how you listened to Harry while making food, and have pre hospital dance parties, makes me think that you are making such an impact on everyone who interacts with you! I am so blessed to know you, and I have a feeling that many people on your trip are feeling the same way. I hope you continue to feel the power of making connections through the rest of this trip! You are so loved.
    Also, can you ask some of the Zambians, maybe the kids, what they think about LeBron James?? I must know. Love you lots !

  15. Jen - Kathryn’s mom says:

    As I read your update I get a sense that the Zambian community is incredibly welcoming and creates a strong sense of belonging. So amazing. I hope you can let these feelings and experiences become a part of you. When we create belonging we find the best in each other and ourselves.

    Kathryn, missing you at home. It’s been fun to have Jack home for a quick visit. He heads back to Utah tomorrow. Miss the days when everyone was home all summer. But thankful for the time we have!!

    Lots of love

  16. Jennifer (Sarah's mom) says:

    Lily, Thanks for your honesty. This was a lovely reflection. Good for you to look for connection with folks– it’s hard to make that happen instantly. Conversations are an art. You have to be curious and listen the way you wish to be listened to!
    Sarah my love. Miss you so much. Everyone at work asks about you and how I know you are ok. I hope you are ok. I hope you are eating (so you aren’t super grumpy, because, we know what happens when you don’t recognize how hungry you are), I hope you are making mental notes of all the sights, smells, sounds, and feelings so you can tell me all of that. I hope you know how much we love you. I hope you know how much of a difference you make. I hope you know you’re my only pickle. xxoo Momma

  17. Pam (Noah's Mom) says:

    Lily, This was another great reflection. I loved you point that in making connections we can gain knowledge, grow and make a difference together. All of details of your daily life made me feel like I was there watching all of you. Thank you helping to keep us all closer through this connection that we have.

  18. Pam - Noah's Mom says:

    Happy Birthday Noah! I hope you are having a wonderful day. We will miss celebrating with you, but we are glad that you are surrounded by your ZamFam. I can’t wait to see you and give you a big hug. I love you!

  19. Todd Myers (Sarah’s Dad) says:

    Nice reflection, Lily. I don’t think you could go to a more different place to get out of your comfort zone — but then I’m also reading how familiar the people are in Zambia and how you are all able to make connections.

    To my Sarah Bear – your grandparents are showing the bungee jump video to everyone in Lititz who will take a look! You are famous.

  20. Julia Lealos says:

    Just commented on Meg’s blog—sorry I’ve fallen behind! A little road trip derailed me, but now I’m back. Go see my message on Meg’s blog, and I love you all!!

  21. Mia Stepenske says:

    hiiiiiii lily

    it’s miaaaa
    I miss you so so so so so so so much and I can’t wait to debrief when you get back. For the meantime, here are some pop culture things that have been going on. Harry Styles just crazy tour has been great. He actually had to change his stage because there was no view for some of the people that bought tickets role model is releasing another album coming out August 9 I think crazy the first song comes out tomorrow Taylor Swift is having a song in the new Toy story movie and that’s all I can really think of right now.

    i miss you so so much and im so proud of you

  22. Grace says:

    Hi Lily,
    I’m so proud of you and how far you have come! You’ve come a very long way since we played wizards in my basement. Also Grandma and Grandpa totally are making you a celebrity with your bungee jumping video. I really enjoyed reading your blog and I’m so excited to hear more when you come home!!
    Enjoy the rest of your time in Zambia and seize the moment.
    I love you so so so much!!

  23. Joe says:

    Isa,
    2 weeks until you’re back! Can’t wait to see you that night. Canby softball lost in the semifinals tonight in a super close game. I’ve just been working most days or preparing for fireworks. See you soon! Love you

  24. Kate (Emi aka Emu mom) says:

    Lily – I love the reflection on connection and the tidbits about daily life there and how those form the connections. I am trying to form an image of Harry Styles playing in the kitchen while you helped cook!

    Emu – I am back home from my whirlwind work trip to Dallas. Tiny Grace tried to lick all the skin off my face when I got home but fortunately I don’t have a nose ring for her to pull out ;). My brain is not braining much today after all the airport/plane time, but miss you a ton and can’t wait to see you in a couple weeks! Love – mums

  25. Hadley Bierma says:

    Isa! With you being no contact, I am starting to realize how much we usually are in contact…MISS YOU! But I am so excited to hear about all of you and your friends’ adventures when you come back! It’s going to be a big debrief and we’ll probably just have to hang out all day. On that note, I’m moving home this Sunday!? Actually crazy but maybe not so much for you since you’ve been done with school for a while now. With summer coming up so soon I’m starting to get excited that we can hang out again and do all of the little summery activities we like to do. Have so much fun on the rest of your trip, but I am so excited for you to come home (I might have to start a paper countdown chain). Love you lots!

  26. Shirley Wilson (Morgan’s fav grandma) says:

    Another wonderful post!

    Hey Morgie, it was great to see your smiling face at the dinner. Have you learned any new recipes that you can share when you return? Today is Sheila’s birthday. One of gifts is a 4-day visit from Melvin and Haven. What fun. She has graduated to soft foods and is happier.

    Missing you so much.

    Love you, Grandma

    • Monte Wilson says:

      Hey Morgan! Sounds like your group is making a lot of local connections. Can’t wait to see all your photos. Miya wants you to know she tried to post but wasn’t able to. She’ll try again tomorrow. All her belongings arrived at her new apartment today so she’ll be busy unpacking. Proud of you. Talk to you soon!

  27. Joe Paolelli says:

    Hi Lily,

    Thanks for posting the update! Sounds like you’re having an awesome time. Keep making connections and following your call. Your IC family is proud of you!

    God bless,
    JP

  28. Mark-Mark, Dad-Like-Guy of EMU says:

    Lily,

    Connection is everything. I have patients I take care of and I ask them, “who should we call if there is a problem?” And they say “nobody.” And I say “family?” “No.”

    Friends? None.
    Parents? Dead.
    Children? I think they are alive. I don’t know where.

    Maybe the first time or two, this came as a shock. I seem to have a lot of people. I’ve heard this very story 20 or 30 times now. Mostly older men. But absolutely positively isolated like Matt Damon on Mars in the movie The Martian.

    It’s taught me that I have to be available. Open. Authentic. Aware of the people around me. Not some interesting person who I think would make a neat friend. I mean everybody. Everybody standing near me, on an elevator, in a line, on the sidewalk at my job. Every neighbor, every person, everybody. I can’t discriminate. I can try to pick and choose who is worthy and who is special. All the time I make connections with lots and lots of people. Many of them are momentary or temporary. They go nowhere. But they are practice for connecting just like you are doing in Zambia. Exactly like you are doing. Practice practice practice. Always open always available. I say things like “cool shoes,” “I hope things go well today” or “I always like seeing you here” and even “I’m borrowing some of your enthusiasm.” Anything but not silence

    From these millions of tiny connections grow some bigger ones. Friendships and bigger friendships. Connections and stronger connections. I don’t worry when things don’t work out because there are 100 more chances today. You are doing this. Keep doing this a) you’ll get better at it and b) it will get easier!

    Emu I can’t wait to hear about the hospital. It sounds like my kind of place! Love you one million!!

    Mark-Mark

  29. Shirley Wilson (Morgan’s fav grandma) says:

    Hey Morgie,

    I guess I’m the designated poster today. Miya tried but wasn’t able to get through. Your dad is going to try. I have been watching tons of jewelry making videos and buying more stuff. We will have to spend some time adding to your bracelet collection.

    Lots of hugs sweetie,

    Love you, Grandma

  30. Kim Arredondo (Isa's mom) says:

    Isa, Lisa and Kristi came for breakfast this morning. I picked flowers for the table and thought how if you were here you would have done that for me. There are so many things in bloom now! Tonight I went to Libby’s last tball game. Nothing has changed. Most of the kids play in the dirt. No one really plays attention. And the winning team is the one with the most kids. Libby did catch and throw a ball once, but the most exciting part for her was the Otter Pops after the game.
    Can’t wait to hear more about cooking meals with Mama, singing, crocodiles, and the kids you are teaching.
    Love you!

  31. Pete - Kathryn's Dad says:

    Lily,

    What a great post. It was so thoughtfully written. I loved the part “Learning how to navigate through the unknowns, new places, and challenges with my ZamFam by side has made me extremely grateful that I stepped out of my comfort zone, put myself out there and said “Yes” to this trip.” I feel that you were speaking for everyone’s thoughts on the trip in this one sentence. This is such a great lesson to learn for the rest of your life. Just put yourself out there and experience life. Live it to the fullest.

    Kathryn,

    Jack has been golfing while he is home. When he comes home he and Maggie swim for about an hour. She must be so happy. And of course, Winnie hides the whole time. Charlie is feeling better. We went to Sushi Cafe tonight. You were the topic of conversation. We all were wondering what you were up to. We can’t wait for a full update when your back.

    Have Fun!

  32. Claire Sladovnik says:

    I love this Lily!! I am so happy you were able to share your love for Harry Styles

    Have the best day everyone!
    Love,
    Claire

  33. Heather (Liv's Mom) says:

    Hi Lily! What a sweet post, and it reminded me of how my little brother would hide behind our legs as he was terrified of strangers..how he’s in his 40’s and a total talker! It’s amazing how you’ve stretched yourself and I loved hearing all the stories about the amazing guide and other people you are connecting with along this journey…and to trust you to cut the fruit and veggies..that’s big trust! Thank you for your heartfelt post! These really help us back here to have a sense of what it’s like!

    Liv-Big hugs sweet girl! It was a BIG day for Kale and tomorrow we are going to Facetime. He tried me today and we played a little phone tag, but he sent me updates. It was just a big day all around! Big day at school! It was funny- in the Stand up Comedy elective we did “Worst Commercials Ever” and some that I assigned to groups were a commercial for a chicken powered skateboard, pencils you could eat, and homework flavored ice cream. They were super funny! But what was funnier was charades today. One girl acted out a whole scene before she got to “cookie jar” which no one could guess by that point because she had been a mouse sneaking into the house, then a person making cookies..you see where this is going! I was laughing so hard and just told them to think very abstractly because it was playing out like a movie LOL. Odie says hi and sends you BIG puppy kisses. He’s been getting lots of zoomies! I love YOU SO MUCH!! MAMA

  34. Dan Olivia’s Dad says:

    Another inspiring post. Love the connection that this blog has created! The dinner photo is so great. One of my favorite thus far!
    Olivia, it was exciting today to hear the big news from Kale!
    Thinking about you always!
    Love you so much!

  35. Kate Eddy says:

    LILY!!!!! Oh my goodness! I miss you so much but the stories you have to tell are so worth it! Of course you played Harry Styles! American Girls came on the radio today and I obviously thought of you! Even from the first day I met you, you been consistently coming out of your shell. I am forever grateful to call you my friend. Love you Lily! Can’t wait for a facetime debrief!

  36. Jim Graley's Pops says:

    Amazing post! Lily, thanks for sharing this part of your journey. The Harry Styles discography thing had me smiling 🙂

    Graley, i look forward to hearing about your connections. I’ve been wondering how the hospital is going and are you enjoying it. What are the people like. Is medicine that different. Do they mix Western and local practices, etc. etc. Today was the warmest of the year, amazingly nice. Finn cooked dinner. he ordered it off of Hellofresh. Everyone liked it. We’re still alive, actually really good. We thought we’d try it our here and there to add variety. Anyhow, luv ya. Lifting you up, hoping that you can sense Christ’s presence in all that you are doing. XO

    Cheers,
    Pops

  37. Lisa (Taylor’s mom) says:

    Hi Lily! Thank you so much for the pictures and stories! I end every day by reading this blog and as a result I end each day feeling hopeful and inspired! I loved reading how your efforts at connection are being rewarded with dance parties, cooking lessons, friendships, and what are sure to be life changing memories!

    Taylor- Seeing your smiling face today was the very best surprise. ❤️. Today was my first Didiers run of the season. Chocolate and vanilla…no toppings of course.

  38. Kristin ( Graley’s mom) says:

    Thanks for this post. Each day I get glimpses that help to fill out the picture! Hearing about the nurses and doctor who are so welcoming and wise – as well as the Mamas back at home.

    Graley, I look forward to learning so many things from you when you get home – like what you are learning about malaria and how to do the Gabbie’s dance moves. And I agree with Caroline about your slicked back hair. Looks great!! Sending you love!

  39. Sean Mullins (ZamFam ’25) says:

    Lily, I really admire how you see connection as this way to learn from and be deeply inspired by the people you meet. From Mr. T and Dr. Mwanza to Dr. Mulongti, Charity, and Jane, to the Mamas — the way you are able to grow because of your connections speaks volumes to your vulnerability and receptiveness to others. I applaud you for continually getting outside your comfort zone and challenging yourself to build these relationships. Also, I must know if Mama Katendi enjoyed rocking out to Kiwi. I remember being similarly nervous for my day as the Mamas’ assistant last year and for all that I could learn and discuss with them. I think some Harry Styles might’ve just done the trick. Keep dancing and singing and laughing and forging these powerful connections!

  40. Sharon Coughlin (Sean's mom) says:

    Hi Lily. I love hearing all your stories and the vulnerability of this post. I feel like I’m right there with you and I am imagining you dancing in the kitchen to ‘Meet me Halfway” with Mama Christine and it brought a big smile to my face. All the stories about dancing are so joyful to read about. There is something about the freedom of dancing and the joy music brings that just connects us no matter where we come from. Keep dancing and connecting…

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